“Failure isn’t fatal but failure to change might be. ”
Change can be good. I sat in my chair anxious about the weekend…laundry, DIY’s, Study, Groceries… the list seemed endless. Shit. I forgot that I had to wake my daughter up. Fail. I looked at my phone and it was like she felt my communication with her. “Mommy? I’m sorry I woke up late” she texted me. A cell phone… since 8 years old. What a blessing it’s been to me. Aside from the dumb ass comments people love to make about an 8 year old having a cell phone, it’s been wonderful in quick-set situations. “Ok. We make mistakes. It happens. It’s ok. Let’s get you to school” Better late than never was the attitude I felt but I didn’t want to let her know that. I want her to change her habit of not setting her alarm so that she succeeds at getting up on her own. But with Orchestra and Theatre and being a 4th grader she’s consumed with everything and then some. I thought of the response I had to her being late. I might have been pissed about this had it happened months ago.. but I wasn’t all that mad today. I was like ehh.. ok. My day continued. But I couldn’t get out of my mind how much I felt like I had matured. My response was that of warmth and concern. I want her to understand that we are human and going to make mistakes like not waking up on time. But we then need to re-evaluate and make the changes necessary so that failure doesn’t become fatal. And from that alone I knew she understood.
Are you making the changes necessary so that failure doesn’t become fatal?
“There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” –Aldous Huxley
In most cases, people are extremely unaware of the impact they can have on someone. I am guilty of this myself. But more often than not, we should think about the realms to which we exist. Where do we go from here? What can we do? Think of these things the next time you bite the hand that feeds you for example.
A common practice is that of being vindictive to another human being. Why? Why are you even wasting your time? Let the universe and karma take its course and see what happens. I am a firm believer that if you step back from a situation that you want to react with vindictiveness, and dont insert yourself, you will see the “karma” come. It may not come in a day, a month or a year. But it will come. We all pay for what we do to another person in one form or another.
In my own personal experience, I thought that by loaning a friend money (that I barely had, and was a single parent at the time) I was helping out a friend. That “sure no problem” would be honored with my money being repaid to me. It was a substantial amount of money too. If it was $50… that’s not really a big deal. But I am talking 6 times that amount. BIG DEAL!! That was 4 years ago. I haven’t seen one cent. The biggest thing with me being your friend is that if you are a true friend of mine, I will try my hardest to do right by you. Sure, we don’t want to see our friends suffer but if someone helps you out please pay it forward. I guess I considered myself to be “petty” for a little while and then I was like no, I am not being petty. I am being real. I am just feeling what any normal person would feel. Monthly payments? Nope. Pay when taxes come? Nope. This is something that at this point in time, I am learning to let go. I have learned to not let people “borrow” anything from me. Money or otherwise. A friend of mine told me (a year after this ordeal happened) that you can always tell the state of mind and lifestyle someone is living by their actions. In other words. I was being asked for money. And if someone goes around asking people for money all the time, then you should think twice about their life and wonder why. We all have ups and downs but doing the right thing (in life and by people) will bring good karma, and we will continue to be prosperous more than we will continue to suffer. But once you roll the ball of suffering, it is a down hill battle from there and it is very hard to stop that motion.
Improve yourself guys. Look deep inside you and think “What can I fix with ME?”
Until a later time…
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” -Romans 12:18
I found this quote today. I correct myself, I think the quote found me. It has been so difficult to adjust to the new way of thinking that promotes peace in your life. Peace in your life is so hard to find, and even harder to keep.
People always say “I don’t want drama”… if you have to make that statement, you more than likely enjoy having drama in your life. I do not feel the need to tell someone that I do not want drama. You can see it. My actions speak to it.
I truly believe if in the mind of someone that is unhappy with themselves or their lives; they believe that they are doing all the right things by “hating” on you and what you are doing. Why is what someone else does so much of our business? Why do we care so much? Why not just worry about what you have going on? It’s too easy to do that. I feel honored when someone decides to talk negatively about me. That means I am renting space in your head, and I welcome that. But it is much healthier to worry about yourself.
I am so excited about this journey of peace that I am on. Everything you do doesn’t need a reaction. It just doesn’t. I no longer want to do things that please other people. I want to be pleased with myself. I want myself to feel like MY SELF. There is your quote of the day from me… “I want myself to be MY SELF.” I believe in manifestation. I truly believe that if you want something to happen you must work to make it happen.
Welcome to App Review Mondays. Every Monday I will review an app and it will be rated from 1-5 hearts. 1 being the worst and 5 being the best. I will highlight my personal experience with the app as well. I am not a paid spokesperson for any of these apps and any opinion is of my own. So let’s get started…
FIT Radio… I had heard something about it and downloaded it. Me personally, I like how Pandora introduces you to new music. This is more of a DJ style music selection app. Which I can’t say I’m a fan of. There is a voice that comes over the speakers and introduces you to the song… In a kind of coaching manner. I enjoy music to the fullest but I can’t get over the amount of brain power I have to use in order to pick a station or genre. There’s so much to choose from and it’s not the style of playback I want.
This app is available for download on the App Store for free and there is an option for a Premium upgrade.
My rating: ❤️
You read it right. It’s a pretty amazing thing for sure. I walked to the fridge and grabbed the coffee creamer we had just bought a week earlier. Something told me that I wasn’t going to be satisfied with buying this specific kind. I’m typically a Coffee-Mate kind of girl. And the point at which you put it in your coffee you become a believer in the power of it. Not much is needed for your coffee. It’s a far cry from International Delight which I feel you need way more of.
So when I walked into our local Stewart’s you can imagine my surprise to see this wonderful invention. It’s delicious. You control the sweetness of your coffee by the amount of sugar you add. Not by the amount of creamer. It’s perfection. Half & Half is wonderful because all of those ridiculous ingredients are not in it. It’s milk and cream. Can’t get any more simple than that.
I get so many questions all the time about what supplements to use when you’re trying to lose weight… This is more of a 3-part question and so the first part is this…. The supplements relative to my diet and weight loss are here. I will have more onhere very soon.
Jacket: Old Navy Activewear // Tights: H&M // Sneakers: Nike
If you’re anything like I was a few months ago, you might have been in a rut. I had no idea where I was going when it came to fitness, and health. I know I loved to cook & learn new recipes; but portion control was a restraint I was lacking. Apparently so was the ability to ignore early morning cravings. I couldn’t pry my hands off of the refrigerator door at 3am. During the day was fine, but it was late night that was posing the problem. When the topic of weight loss comes up, not eating after 7 is a common statement made by those hoping to lose some pounds. As unfortunate as it is, at 3 am; I am not necessarily coherent. And I feel like I am not able to process a common sense judgment such as leaving the refrigerator alone. In a search for a solution, I stumbled upon a post written by a guy who went through the same thing. And his solution? Write ‘are you really hungry or just bored or thirsty?’ on a piece of paper and tape it on the inside of the refrigerator. I did it and night one went well. The following nights did as well. I found myself waking up and grabbing water or an orange or some other piece of fruit. Which was better than the calorie-filled food I was searching for.
So… I worked out today. And its so ridiculous to think that I love eating Vanilla Ice Cream way more than I like to do a crunch. But then I look in my IG feed and secretly wish my body was back to the way it used to be. Bring on the hard work… I did Hammer & Chisel. I could only make it through half of the Chisel Balance (which is the first one you’re supposed to do according to the plan). I cant wait to see how this journey goes. I have tumbled up to a whopping 230lbs. And even though I don’t look like it, I feel it every day.
I am so excited to begin this journey. This blog is going to be a compilation of my favorite things. I love to cook, bake, DIY, paint. sew, travel, workout, discover new Life Hacks etc. I have so much to share with you so stay tuned!!