When You Possess the Desire to Love Yourself

I remember this encounter I had with a guy that I met online. He was incredibly good looking and he was sweet. I must have been 24 at the time. To this day, I swear by the name he called himself which was Sam. I don’t know if that was his actual name but he gave himself that name. I remember I was in school at the time and I needed to print documents so I would always go to the library and the bought me a printer for me to have at home. It was like a $50 printer and he also gave me $50 in cash. I don’t remember what happened and why we dissolved from there. But we didn’t talk again shortly after that. I remember his energy being so masculine and strong. Not too much. There wasn’t too much that we knew about each other personally. We didn’t ever get into deep conversations where we sat around and talked about our backgrounds. He gave me the inspiration to be sexy and attractive. Be seductive in action. He was such a welcoming man in some aspects because he would bring me lunch and even take me to dinner dates. He worked a lot as an engineer for a local engineering firm is what I knew to be fact. From there after, it was years that had passed before I thought about him again. It wasn’t something that I had thought about often. But deep down I knew if I googled him I either might not like what I find or I wouldn’t find anything at all. I don’t know that he wasn’t married. I still don’t know that. But I do know that when I googled him nothing came up. I once even called the engineering firm he worked at and they said he didn’t work there anymore. I ask myself occasionally what would have happened. And sometimes I even hope I run into him again. Do you ever do that? Have you ever done that?

“I wasn’t the woman I am today. And if I met him today, that could be a good thing or a bad thing”.  -El’Aundra

I am a different woman today though. My life has brought me to such a place of love for everything that I have been through and everything that I am today. There is nothing about myself that I don’t love. I love it all. Even the things I don’t like. I may not like them but I love myself because they still make me who I am. Does that make sense to you? You have to be able to say that to yourself and make that stick. It is your purpose in life to make that a fact for YOU! I believe in healing. I believe in mistakes. I believe in flaws. I believe in failures. I believe in ME. You need to say that to yourself every single day all day. There is a very small part of me that still felt that was true even at my lowest point in life. There was no reason for me to feel like I wasn’t good enough. I needed to learn how to love myself in order to understand that I am perfectly fine by myself. I don’t have to have someone else. I don’t necessarily think that there is anything wrong with me being by myself. It is important to learn how to be alone. Other than occasional dating, from 2011-2014 I was single. There was one man that I would entertain and spend the night at his house occasionally. But nothing was serious between us at all. It felt more like a really good friendship than anything. It is so important that you just love yourself. Take the time out to love YOU.

 

How I used the Placebo Effect to Heal

I was going through so much at such a crucial time in my life. The relationship that I was in was something that I knew I didn’t want to be in for the rest of my life. I knew that I didn’t want this person to continue to be someone that I was supposed to build with. I knew that. But I only realized that when I saw all of the differences in us that really created too much space. We grew apart. Love is always an option. You can choose to feel love, and as far as loving myself; I really felt like things were going to get better and when they didn’t, I blamed myself. I continued to imagine if things were actually better instead of if they get better. I truly believe that when you insert the word “if”, you ultimately create a cloud of doubt. And who needs doubt? How is doubt going to make your situation any better? How is doubt going to give you the leverage you need to succeed at anything? When doubt comes into play; you begin to create a lifestyle, and mindset around that doubt and then it becomes a reality. You ultimately create that world because you initially ran with a thought of doubt.

 

“If the brain expects that a treatment will work, it sends the healing chemicals into the bloodstream, which facilitates that. That is why the Placebo Effect is so powerful for every type of healing. The opposite is equally true & equally powerful; when the brain expects that a therapy will not work; it doesn’t. This is called the Nocebo Effect“.

 

Ways I began & maintained my healing process

One of the hardest things for me to do was to maintain my mental progress. There were times I sat in the corner crying because I just couldn’t see the end of the tunnel. Where is the light? Why am I not able to continue on this path through transition without getting upset and losing it?

  • WRITE A GRATITUDE JOURNAL: Every morning I wrote in my journal thanking the Universe for everything that I was going through because everything that I was experiencing was going to benefit me in the long run. We encounter so many forks in the road, and distractions on the path of enlightenment that we all seek to travel without bumps (a smooth road on this path doesn’t exist). This journal doesn’t have to be special. It just has to be something that you’re actually willing to fill up with all of the things in the world you are grateful for.
  • FOCUS ON YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE: I knew that I wanted to help people and continue to move on a path of enlightening other people as I traveled on my own path of enlightenment. But in order for me to help people, I needed to make sure that I was on my own path and able to be an inspiration to others. I cannot inspire if I have not lived the path that I am taking others on a journey through.
  • STAY OPTIMISTIC: It is so damn hard for us to continue to remain positive. We cannot naturally expect this to just fall into place. We have to take action in order to remain positive. By human nature we are negative in our thoughts sometimes. When you’re in a nail shop, and you hear the conversation around you; your brain has you thinking that those around you are talking about you. The truth is, it doesn’t matter if they are or not. Lets not let your brain go down the path of negativity.
  • MEDITATE: This was so difficult for me!! I would sit there with my mind racing. My frequency would be all wrong. I was a mess. And in the beginning I began to wonder if I was ever going to be any good at meditating. But eventually I continued and made sure that my mind was quiet. You have to practice meditation.
  • PRACTICE THE PLACEBO EFFECT: Our minds have the power to heal. I think often we misunderstand the power of the mind. It is so important for us to understand that our mind is an extremely powerful tool. The placebo effect is due to a person’s expectations. Like acupuncture and reiki, it is a healing practice. This article below perfectly explains the Placebo Effect and how it can work wonders…

 

The 1980s by the Aldus Corporation

Your mind can be a powerful healing tool when given the chance. The idea that your brain can convince your body a fake treatment is the real thing — the so-called placebo effect — and thus stimulate healing has been around for millennia. Now science has found that under the right circumstances, a placebo can be just as effective as traditional treatments.

“The placebo effect is more than positive thinking — believing a treatment or procedure will work. It’s about creating a stronger connection between the brain and body and how they work together,” says Professor Ted Kaptchuk of Harvard-affiliated Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center, whose research focuses on the placebo effect. (click here continue reading…)

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